We live in a world where make-up, fake tans and big eyelashes are considered ‘normal’. For a long time, I totally believed this statement.
A few days ago, a friend of mine was watching a christian vlogger on youtube on our TV at home and I found myself watching with her. I noticed that this particular ‘vlogger’ was wearing fake tan and ridiculously large fake eyelashes. The more I watched this video, the more I became annoyed that this ‘famous’ girl, who ALOT of young christians look up to was advertising that what she was doing was ‘normal’ and of God.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there is anything wrong with fake tanning or wearing fake eyelashes but I think we have to ask ourselves why? What is the reason behind us doing this? I was watching ‘studio 10’ this morning with my wonderful husband and they were talking about fake tans and all of the girls said that they loved fake tanning and then one of the men on the panel asked them why they used it. One of the women replied ‘because its healthier than laying in the sun’. While that is true, I don’t believe she really answered the question that he was asking. I believe he was asking her a question about identity and why does she feel the need to fake tan. Was it to feel beautiful? Was it to feel accepted by society?
For those of you who know me well, a few years ago, I used fake tan once a week and wore fake eyelashes and a full face of makeup every single day. I danced full time and one of my teachers told me that I would never make it in the dance world because my skin was too white so I needed to use fake tan and I believed that load of garbage.
It wasn’t until I really understood what the bible says about identity and knowing who you are in Christ that I stopped caring about what other people thought about the way I looked. In fact, my husband, father in law and I went to the football last week and it was literally freezing cold. I chose to wear my jersey (a serious mistake because we totally got flogged haha – but hey i’m a loyal fan), my dance jumper, trackies and a pair of runners. I had little make up on and my hair in a pony tail. I was a fashion disaster but I have never felt so free in knowing who I am in Christ. I was also REALLY warm!
People may argue and say ‘oh you already have a husband so it doesn’t matter so much for you’ but seriously – I still have to keep my husband! haha. Girls, think about it! Would you rather be fake and not really happy with yourself and try and keep up that facade throughout your relationship? Or would you rather choose to be free in who you are and be accepted for all of your flaws by the man who you are going to spend your life with. I went through this before I met my husband! It was hard, but totally worth it.
How can you love your husband correctly if you don’t love yourself yet?
Matthew 6:27-29 really says it all:
‘Has anyone by fussing in front of the mirror even gotten taller by so much of an inch? All this time and money wasted on fashion – do you think it makes much difference? Instead of looking at the fashions, walk out into the fields and look at the wildflowers. They never pimp or shop, but have you ever seen colour and design quite like it? The ten best dressed men and women in the country look shabby along side them.’ MSG
Love and sunflowers,